Dear Mr. Watterson ~ I just want to say THANK YOU.

Last night was one of the best date nights ever with my husband. It has been difficult to keep enthusiasm going to nurture our own relationship, and this film was just what the doctor ordered. We turned and smiled at each other many times during the film (are we nerdy for wanting to hold hands while watching a documentary about Bill Watterson?). The film rekindled passionate feelings inside us for the art of illustration, and for the comic that had influenced both our lives. It was a wonderful common interest to bond us together again in the most special way.

David and I met in Art School. He was such an amazing artist there, I felt like I was dating the quarterback by being his girlfriend in school. So watching and hearing about the reclusive genius, Bill Watterson, made me remember also how I remembered David back in Art School as well (they have a few things in common).

And I remembered how Calvin & Hobbes affected and influenced me growing up into an artist. I noticed the superior quality of Calvin & Hobbes art in the newspaper. I was drawn to it immediately, and it was always the first comic I would go to, often clipping out the strip and saving it to put in my special collection jar, or to paste into my journal. Calvin and Hobbes even started to affect the way I would journal. Just as Watterson pushed the envelope with the layout of his cartoons, I pushed myself to explore different ways of journaling – using pictures instead of words to express myself – even if it was collaging cartoons together to make something humorous of my own.

So I wanted to write my own “Dear Mr. Watterson” as well as a thank you to the director of this film, Joel Allen Schroeder, for creating this wonderful reflective tribute that has rekindled love for a lot of people I am sure. I certainly know it did for me.

THANK YOU!

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Love is a DECISION – not just a feeling.

relationship difficulties: young couple having a fightI found this wonderful excerpt that has been passed around Facebook. I have no idea who the original author is. I would like to give credit, so if anyone knows, please add it to the comments.

The entire message is very long, so I took out this excerpt which spoke to me the strongest right now in my life:

“The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it’s learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know
WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a ‘decision.’ Not just a feeling.”

I’ve reached that point in my marriage where the LOVE is harder to find. It gets buried underneath higher priorities like the children’s needs, financial junk, kids’ daily and weekly homework and other school projects, careers, trying to find space for myself, and household chores.

Where on earth is there time to tend to my marriage?

Well, as I’ve learned from the book “Creating Time,” there IS time in my life. It’s just spent on other things, and my husband is forgotten in the mix. Love ends up not being so easy anymore.

And it’s good to know that that’s OKAY.

The important thing is to recognize that our life is changing and it’s time to try stirring up that love again. Time and energy needs to be spent on something I never had to “work” on before. Love is supposed to just “happen,” right?

That’s why love becomes a decision – a choice. You can choose to resent the fact that it’s not easy anymore. You can choose to dislike the person your spouse has become throughout your many years of living life together. Or you can choose to open your heart to your spouse and try to see his/her inner child – the person you originally fell in love with before she/he became tainted by life and responsibilities. Choose to smile. Choose to lend a hug or a back scratch. Choose to listen, even when you feel you don’t have time.

Choose love.